Married for over 12 years, they need sexual healing.  Before marriage, they dated and lived together for four.  Over the course of those 16 years, Marcus and Vee enjoyed a very hot sexual relationship.  “We made love every day: when we got up, when we went to bed and if we got lucky, we snuck in a little afternoon delight.  We couldn’t get enough of each other.  Then, Marcus got diagnosed with prostate cancer…”




James, a former NFL player, confided that he used “to get rock hard and stay that way all night.”  He balled his hand into a fist and extended his forearm up at a 90 degree angle from his elbow, “my shit hasn’t gotten hard like that in a long time.”

“Prostate issues?” I asked.

He lowered his fist and took a sip of his drink.  He didn’t have to say yes, instead his entire body said it for him.




Marcus doubted his manhood, “when your dick ain’t getting hard for 13 months, let’s face, you start to have doubts.  I started to think Vee would look for something else and, to tell you the truth, I wouldn’t blame her.”

James’ wife began to doubt herself, “Even though I knew medication caused the problem,  I thought I was the problem.  Mistakenly, I thought I wasn’t sexy enough.  In addition, I thought I was doing something wrong.  Thank God we were able to talk about it.”

A growing number of couples share variations of the same story.  As a result, all are in search of the same thing, some sexual healing.


Communication Is the Key


“You have to be able to communicate.  Vee was incredibly patient with me.  The one thing we didn’t want to lose was our physical intimacy.  She understood that I needed to please her.  I needed to know that I could still give her pleasure.  For awhile, that was fine.  In turn, Vee wanted to pleasure me, too.  And that was a challenge, so much so that we started to explore other ways of being sexual.”

Marcus paused for a moment, deciding just how much information he wanted to share.  “Things changed for the better when she brought home a strap-on.  Fortunately,  new doors opened.  Little did we know that there was a whole world of sexual pleasure out there that we had no idea existed.”

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